Putting things in motion

Reading books, going to classes, and reading articles on the internet is great! There are all sorts of things that you can learn. What about the books about how to better yourself?┬áIt’s awesome that there are those who want to help others become better, learn to manage stress and all of that stuff. Some authors even outline how to do it.

The problem is that what works for one person may not work for others. That’s kind of why I wanted to make Wholistic Living. I want to put a bunch of different ideas in one place for people to be able to find what works for them.

I know that I am still searching for what works for me. It’s a process for me, and it will be a process for everyone.

Some will find what works for them faster, others will take a longer time.

It’s okay if it takes a long time. The important thing is that you never give up.

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What is your why?

It’s hard to do a job when you don’t know why you’re doing it, or why you should care.

So figure out your why.

Why do I paint portraits? Because I like to tell other people’s stories.

Why do I write on this blog? So that people can see that they are not alone. Maybe I can put something in a way that will help someone understand what is going on. Maybe I can inspire someone do do something they’ve always wanted to do.

Why do I read? Because I sincerely love to learn. I honestly think that if you are not learning, you are not living, so what is the point?

Your why doesn’t have to be all that deep. If you are a cashier your why can be to help brighten the day of those who go through your line.

Or it could be the deepest thing. Your why could be the reason you live. But make sure that everything you do has a “why” behind it.

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Reading of books, YAY!

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I love reading. I love fantasy stories. But something I have put off a lot recently is to read books that will further my knowledge.

A lot of people will turn to information online, but I really despise reading books on my computer or on my phone (especially my phone). The feel of the book in my hand just makes it so different of an experience. There’s the smell, the ability to read as long as you have light and not worrying about a device dying, and just something about the print on paper (I think it has to do with appreciating the typography and layout that goes into a book).

Don’t get me wrong, I look a lot of information up online myself. There are a couple of blogs that I read that have fascinating information.

Anyways, my preferred source of information is books. And I just have not been keeping up on that. So, keeping with one of my goals, I am reading at least one book a month. I’m toying with making it one non-fiction book and one fiction book so I don’t get too heavily into the learning and forget to read for fun.

I encourage everyone else to read at least one book a month as well. It may not be your preferred method of getting information, but it’s a way that you can focus on the information without notification from Facebook popping up. It’s also easier for you to look back at information if you own the book. You don’t have to look through a bunch of links that you have saved.

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

If you look good, you feel good.

Originally this post was going to be about how if you like how you look then you shouldn’t care what everyone else thinks.

Then I started thinking about how body shaming has turned to people being too skinny. Fat is becoming the new beautiful.

Except that fat is not healthy. But it’s becoming the norm in the United States. And now I am being attacked as someone who is skinny.

My ideal beauty is natural, healthy. I really don’t like wearing makeup so I want my skin to look beautiful without it. That means I take care of myself and I’m always looking for natural ways to take care of my beauty routine. I am starting to get to the point where I am finding what truly works for me. It is taking me a long time, but to me it is worth it. If I can be beautiful by being healthy, then I’m healthy.

Healthy should be the new beautiful. If you’re healthy and you like the way you look, then no one else’s opinion should matter.

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How to talk to men

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Talking to men can be frustrating. Talking to anyone can be frustrating, especially if you overthink it. But I have discovered, and have had this confirmed by other guys, that women have to tell guys what they want.

This means that they can’t read your mind. Subtle hints at what you want won’t work either. Tell them, straight up. They don’t like games. Okay, well I guess video games can be excluded, but they tend not to like mind games.

So if he’s doing something that annoys you, giving him the cold shoulder until he stops it is not going to work. Tell him when you’re not annoyed what is bugging you.

Also, don’t tell him about your problems if you don’t want it fixed. There are times when you can, just preface it with “Please just let me vent, I don’t need this fixed”. Or you could just talk to your girlfriends. If you have a problem that you want help solving, guys are really good for this. If you want a little bit more in depth on the difference between men and women and how they communicate check out this article

The thing is, for a lasting relationship, communication has to be worked on. Fairy tails don’t exist forever. When I first met my husband, it was like a fairy tail. We have had some rough spots, but we have continually worked on our communication and relationship. We are partners and have found that if we do things/projects together, it gets done faster and better. It has made our relationship stronger and I love him more than I can say. So work on learning how to communicate with your significant other.

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The truth matters…this is the connection economy

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So if you haven’t noticed, everyone is more connected thanks to the internet. It has become so big that people can telecommute, buy, sell, and find pretty much anything they want via the internet. Social media has made marketing and customer service available at the touch of a button. People want to know who they are buying from.

People wanting to know who they are buying from is not new. Mom and Pop stores were who you used to buy from if you didn’t buy directly from the farmer, tailor, weaver, etc directly. You knew who the owners of the store were.

As the industrial revolution truly revolutionized how fast and how many of something could be produced, people began to become less and less familiar with who was making the products that were bought.

It’s all coming back around to wanting to know who you are buying from. And with that comes transparency.

Sometimes I feel like I’m too truthful for my own good. I don’t like not telling people the whole truth. I don’t like twisting words because it often feels like I am deceiving them. It is a weird thing for me to feel especially when people ask about my spiritual belief. It honestly makes me feel uncomfortable to tell people that I’m pagan because they are likely Christian and I REALLY do not like confrontation. I don’t tell them I’m Christian, I tell them that my tradition is similar to that of the Eastern Orthordox, which is completely true as most of the rituals are exactly the same and happen at the same time as my tradition. And there are other times where the truth is uncomfortable. But I am getting better at telling more and more of the truth when it comes to my tradition, but only if someone asks.

Often times, the truth is extremely uncomfortable. But then I see what happens to the politicians and companies who try to hide the truth. They get torn to pieces, not only on social media but legally as well.

“If you are ashamed to tell others what you’re doing, then you shouldn’t be doing it” comes to mind.

Truthfulness is part of integrity, which if you want to make it truly in today’s connection economy (if you want to learn more on the connection economy, check out Seth Godin) you need to have a strong sense of integrity.

I just truly don’t understand those who don’t tell the truth. There have been supervisors who have twisted words or not told the whole truth (“As far as they know, this is how it’s always done”) and I have lost respect for them. Is it just more comfortable for them? In the case of my quote, I think they were trying to make the person more comfortable. In that case though, I think that made us look extremely unorganized.

Transparency is important in so many things. I feel like transparency between employees and supervisors makes a stronger team. My honesty has given my higher ups a strong confidence and trust in me that they have told me about and thanked me for. And in return that is all I ask back.

So, here’s what I want you to do: look at your values. Where does truth come in? Are you always telling little white lies? If you are, are they to make you feel better or to make someone else feel better? Do you get caught in the little lies? What are the consequences?

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It’s going to be okay…just start.

I don’t know about you guys, but I tend to be a perfectionist. What I mean by that is that if I don’t have time to do something perfectly, I will not start it. Then things get piled up and I get overwhelmed. I get overwhelmed because I don’t know where to start, what if people are upset with me?

Something that I have been working on is to just get started. Then I set a timer and I can be done when the timer goes off. The problem is finding/scheduling the time to finish it if it’s a project.

It’s also difficult for me personally because I don’t have a job where I have a set schedule. I thrive when I have a schedule and routines. Later this year that will change, but for now I’m doing the best I can. I just need to start. And start again. And just do.

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